Waiting for Radio City to Sink

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For the record, I honestly don’t give a fuck how much cock you suck. Suck a thousand cocks. Suck a million cocks. There’s no such thing as a slut. That’s just a lie they told you born out of male anxiety. Anxiety about adultery and misattributed paternity.

Sex isn’t sinful either, though you can trace a lot of sexual repression and misogyny back to the Abrahamic religions. Before Emperor Constantine tried to replace the pagan religions with Christianity, they used to have sex in church. Sacred prostitution. Happened a lot in Mesopotamia, for example. And the Mesopotamians weren’t stupid either. They invented the fucking wheel.

It’s your body to do with as you please. If anyone tries to dictate a dick limit to you, they’re trying to take ownership of your body. And that’s slavery. If they call you a slut, that’s slavery. And I refuse it. Suck an infinite number of cocks for all I care. Just enjoy it.
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(Source: love-drug-diver, via spinthetireslightthefires)

when straight guys ask how lesbian sex works i feel really bad for their girlfriends because if you dont understand how to have sex with a girl in any way other than repeatedly putting your dick in her you are having some really bad sex

(via ellielamothe)

sex and sexuality

skunkitty:

fractionalrabbits:

My dad was just being all sexist again, saying “How about these single mothers not get pregnant in the first place? Like, have some self respect!”

Without looking up from tumblr I just went “Having sex doesn’t mean you have no self respect. You respect yourself enough to let yourself indulge in what you want.”

He got all indignant and said, “Well then you understand women, but I understand men. Men-“

And I cut him off with “Men brag about sleeping with women and that’s having self respect, according to society. So why can’t women do the same?”

“It diminishes the worth of the sex!”

“To you men, maybe. If your worth as a man is threatened by the fact that the girl you’re sleeping with freely enjoys sex, then that’s something you need to work on yourself. Women shouldn’t need to not enjoy themselves because you have issues with your perceptions of your worth as a man. And what you don’t seem to understand about the English language is that the only time your approval matters to someone’s self respect is when its YOUR self respect. You don’t get to tell me how much I respect myself based on how much you respect me, because then that’s not self respect.”

He just waved me off and went back to watching TV.

I dig this post. Can I quote it?

(via sanityscraps)

reasons why pegging is wrong

hyenaboy:

punkcub:

I don’t want straight guys to have fun during sex.

Straight boy butts are not special.

Nobody wants to hear them wax on and on about how being done up the bum by their ladyfriends is superspecial because it isn’t.

No seriously until an end is put to queerphobia, I am firmly for denying straight boys the pleasures of anal stimulation during sex.

It’s still buttsex so stop calling it pegging. You are getting done up the bum.

And if us queer folk have to sift through piles of straight buttsex porn to get to whatever variety of people-of-our-preference-being-done-up-the-bum we want, then you can call your little kink what it is, namely, taking it up the arse, and live with having to see the occasional gay assfuckery.

no seriously your ass is not special, str8ies

and god forbid if you write essays about sub/dom bullshit you associate with being fucked by your ladyfriend, because you are being really stupid and just can you not

no seriously getting fucked up the arse doggystyle is not inherently submissive

just stop having sex, straight people, really, because you are clearly doing it very wrong

Also:

term was popularized by Dan Savage

But no, when I saw the post about pegging on kinkology recently, it just made me annoyed. You want to talk about the specifics of using a strap-on during sex, you call it strap-on sex. Otherwise it’s just anal.

(Source: punkcubspornrepository)

[TW: rape] like I’m sorry some of this is disgusting and CONTRIBUTES TO RAPE CULTURE

wretchedoftheearth:

the problem is that tons of aspects of BDSM have permeated into porn (where most boys and men learn about sex) and into popular culture

but without any discussion of safety or consent

and that’s why I end up having encounters with men who think it’s okay when they’re twice my size to pin me down and ignore no

or guys who tell me they know I really like it, and my friends have had similar encounters

and even within BDSM/kink communities, because a lot of young guys on the scene who I’ve met don’t understand the whole consensual aspect, nor safety, nor mutual pleasure

they think it’s about non-consensually violating and abusing women without regard to safety - for only their pleasure

(via rapeculturerealities)

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Men get to feel hornier because they’re socially supported in this. The whole of society is geared toward titillating men and discouraging female sexual desire. It’s inherent to the Nice Guy® complaint, where men are entitled to feel physical attraction, but a woman who wants more than “nice” is shallow. It’s evident in the way men and women dress, with women always mindful to wear stuff that makes them sexually attractive, whereas men have the opposite problem, and have to avoid being too sexualized lest they seem feminine. Naked women are draped over every inch of public space, and the internet is full of visually interesting porn for men, but our society barely can imagine what it would be like to try to attract a female eye. Men seem hornier in no small part because their sexuality is celebrated and codified. It’s easy for men to know right away how to be sexual, whereas women are still largely expected to figure it out for themselves—-and even that’s a recent invention, because pre-feminism, women were mostly just expected to do what men wanted.

But even with the small amount of freedom we have, it’s worth noting that a 30-year-old woman who admitted obliquely to having had non-procreative sex in Congress created a month long, nationwide scandal. Until that kind of pressure disappears completely, we can’t even begin to measure what the “natural”, unadulterated female sexuality would look like, and how it would compare to the celebrated and constantly titillated male sexuality.

Either way, stop blaming sex for misogyny. If all men wanted was women to fuck them more, the English language wouldn’t even have the word “slut” in it.
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— Amanda Marcotte, Misogyny isn’t caused by male horniness, on David Wong’s article 5 Ways Modern Men Are Trained to Hate Women (via imnothayley)

(Source: ellielamothe, via theginnyproject)

lil-miss-choc:

bonerack:

princessnecrophilia:

weeaboo-chan:

vhscars:

protest-resources:

50 Shades of Abuse Flyer - Canada

Use, redistribute, print.

Click image and magnify for large version.

Okay. I understood all the flack Twilight got for being an abusive relationship. Because it was and it was being read by a very young and impressionable audience. But ffs, 50 Shades is an ADULT NOVEL. Iit is about a BDSM couple. Which - newsflash - do exist. It is a completely consensual form of dominate/submissive sex play. The whole concept of domestic violence and abuse is that one side exerts control over an unwilling victim. I don’t recall Anastasia, or whatever she’s called, protesting to Christian’s form of sex. If I remember correctly, she quite enjoyed it! So before you condemn a work of romanticizedfiction, actually consider it’s audience and remember that they are mature and capable enough to know the difference between reality and fiction.

so i guess you didn’t read the parts where he coerces her and the part where he continues after she has used her safeword and acts like a fucking creep whenever they aren’t having sex

it is the worst possible introduction to BDSM i could imagine

i know my shit okay

im hoping the people defending this book are 1. never getting into BDSM 2. not currently into BDSM 3. havent read the book bc i dont want to believe anyone is that fucking stupid

Let me

just

fucking

drop

some fucking

knowledge on you right now.

Wanna know the BDSM mantra? Safe, sane, consensual.

So let me explain why this book was devoid of all three of these things.

Safe - In the first few chapters of the novel, Christian Grey tracks Ana’s cell phone to find her at a club. Takes her home when she’s drunk, changes her when she’s so intoxicated she doesn’t remember him doing so,and informs her he will be keeping tabs on her for her own benefit. This is not the behaviour of a respectable Dominant. This is the behaviour of a power hungry, abusive asshole who really can’t take no for an answer.

Sane - One of the most important parts of BDSM is aftercare. Scenes can be extremely traumatizing and intense for the submissive. Aftercare is anything from petting to cuddling to holding to sweet talking, whatever degree of gentleness a bottom would need to pull them out of “subspace”. How does Christian provide aftercare? He submits Ana to a traumatizing first time spanking experience AND THEN FUCKING LEAVES. AND GETS MAD THAT SHE DIDN’T TELL HIM SHE WAS UPSET. He’s the one who should fucking know better! That, again, is not the act of a responsible Dominant. It’s the act of a selfish abuser.

Consensual - Did I mention he undressed her when she was belligerently drunk? Tracked her phone to locate her? He also buys her a new car despite her saying no countless times. Now, consent is important for any kind of sexual activity at all. Consent means informed, consent means enthusiastic. Informed, enthusiastic consent. This is crucial in a BDSM setting. Scenes can be extremely intense, especially for the bottom. What is Christian’s form of obtaining consent? Handing Ana a fucking contract highlighting all the things he wants to do her asshole and asking her to sign it. She was a virgin (Don’t even get me fucking started.) who had never before been exposed to BDSM. Entering in that kind of relationship takes a gargantuan amount of trust and knowledge so you know exactly what you’re getting into. Not reading a list of kinks on a piece of paper and signing your rights to say no away. Christian didn’t offer her resources, he didn’t offer her information. He gave her an ultimatum. That is not the sort of consent a responsible Dom/me would seek from their submissive.

Fuck. This. book. It’s written in a shitty way, it’s a terrible example of a BDSM relationship (ask anybody already involved in the lifestyle and watch them go blue in the face just thinking about it), which is already faced with enough prejudice and misunderstand, and it romanticizes and glorifies abuse.

And this post is going into my bookmarks, because it is beautiful.

(via hyenaboy)

"Let me reiterate that to you: If facials or any other sex act makes you feel bad, gross uncomfortable or degraded, then you should not do it ever. That is wrong. But men aren’t the only ones who like things they see in porn. In my case, there’s nothing degrading about receiving a desired sex act I’ve asked for as a consenting adult. Sex acts are degrading when they make you feel degraded — and nobody gets to decide that but you, not even feminism."

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-Emily McCombs, Do Women Like Facials? (via catarangs)

“Sex acts are degrading when they make you feel degraded — and nobody gets to decide that but you, not even feminism.” YES THANK YOU.

—BB

(via fuckyeahsexpositivity)

Sometimes people change their minds about what feels degrading to them, and that’s ok too. People need room to explore in order to figure out how they feel about sexual acts. When a sex act is pre-judged as “bad” (or “good” for that matter), it introduces external pressure to the situation and makes it harder for people to figure out what they really like. There is already enough pressure to perform in ways we don’t like–not just with sex but with gender and every other aspect of our lives. Applying pressure in the opposite direction doesn’t fix the problem, it just increases the tension. Rather than pressuring people to behave the “right” way, it is more effective to give them the room to explore and decide for themselves without judgment.

(via amydentata)

(via sanityscraps)

shavingryansprivates:

i can’t understand how people view sex and sexuality as a moral issue and see sexual activity as immoral behavior when it’s literally what we’re made to do

(Source: shavingryansprivates, via thewaroffivequeens)

sex and sexuality

Sex is sex. It’s natural. The choice is entirely yours.

You are not a slut/whore because you choose to engage in sex/sexual activity. You are not a prude or a frigid bitch or unmanly if you don’t. It’s your body therefore it’s your decision. If it’s consensual and nothing illegal is taking place, it is not your business to judge others.

(Source: betterthanweakness, via sanityscraps)