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There’s nothing wrong with sex, people.

strengthissexy:

- Having sex every day.
- Saving sex for your wedding night.
- Never having sex.
- Having sex with different people.
- Having sex with one person.
- Having sex with a person of your same gender.
- Loving sex.
- Hating sex.
- Being loud.
- Being quiet.

The only thing wrong with sex?

When it’s not consensual.

Because that’s not sex. That’s rape.

(via slutwalksignideas)

"It’s highly flawed to talk about the impact of “pornography” on young people as if it were a monolithic entity. Of course there is some porn which contributes to the general objectification of women in visual media. Some porn is misogynistic, tasteless and dehumanising. But to tar all sexually explicit content with the same brush shows a woeful ignorance of what’s out there. A lot of porn is pro-woman; even more is pro-human, quite simply a celebration of real human sexual expression without any strong bias either way."

— Pandora Blake (porn, like sex work, defies easy generalisations | Spanked, Not Silenced)

(via anarchofeminist)

vile-goblin-daughter: marpotish: peculiartreasure195: God has created sex for marriage alone… but that story you gave up above about the skit really bothered me. Yes, having premarital sex is a sin, but God gives forgiveness.   “Therefore, my friends, I want you to know that through Jesus the forgiveness of sins is proclaimed to you. Through him everyone who believes is set free from every sin, a justification you were not able to obtain under the law of Moses.” Acts 13:38-39 When you have sex outside of marriage, I believe you are giving some of yourself away to that person.  I look at it like this: Imagine sex as a wrapped up gift under the Christmas tree. On Christmas Eve you desperately want to know what is inside the package…so you take a quick peek. During the day you keep going back to look again. By Christmas morning the wrapping is torn and it doesn’t look as appealing as it once did. You aren’t as excited about your present as you were when you first saw it. You didn’t wait till you were suppose to receive it….It’s just not the same. You would have enjoyed the gift more if you had waited.   I am not a Christmas present.  I am an intelligent, caring, loving, fun, creative person who loves deeply and the fact that I am not a virgin does not negate or lessen my value as a human being.  My love is not ‘torn’ or ‘unappealing’ because I have had sex.  I and anyone lucky enough to be loved by me knows that. You say that you disagree with the teacher in the above story, but your anecdote does the same thing.  It implies that people have a limited amount of worth and that each time one has premarital sex it is lessened.  That the person is a half-empty bottle of perfume or a slightly torn Christmas present. As the author of the ProChoiceGeneration post (hi, I’m Maria), I think you missed the point of my original post.  If you or anyone else decides to wait until marriage for sex and are confident in your decision, I am happy for you.  Anyone being confident in what they want in their lives is pretty great.  But here’s the thing, you just told me that I am a Christmas present and that my boyfriend is some mischievous kid who ‘ruins his surprise’.  In that statement, you turned a loving, egalitarian, and deep relationship into an interaction between a child and an object.  You dehumanized me and others who have had sex and I will not stand for that.  Reblogging again because Maria’s fucking commentary, man.

vile-goblin-daughter:

marpotish:

peculiartreasure195:

God has created sex for marriage alone… but that story you gave up above about the skit really bothered me. Yes, having premarital sex is a sin, but God gives forgiveness.  

“Therefore, my friends, I want you to know that through Jesus the forgiveness of sins is proclaimed to you. Through him everyone who believes is set free from every sin, a justification you were not able to obtain under the law of Moses.” Acts 13:38-39

When you have sex outside of marriage, I believe you are giving some of yourself away to that person. 

I look at it like this: Imagine sex as a wrapped up gift under the Christmas tree. On Christmas Eve you desperately want to know what is inside the package…so you take a quick peek. During the day you keep going back to look again. By Christmas morning the wrapping is torn and it doesn’t look as appealing as it once did. You aren’t as excited about your present as you were when you first saw it. You didn’t wait till you were suppose to receive it….It’s just not the same. You would have enjoyed the gift more if you had waited.  

I am not a Christmas present.  I am an intelligent, caring, loving, fun, creative person who loves deeply and the fact that I am not a virgin does not negate or lessen my value as a human being.  My love is not ‘torn’ or ‘unappealing’ because I have had sex.  I and anyone lucky enough to be loved by me knows that.

You say that you disagree with the teacher in the above story, but your anecdote does the same thing.  It implies that people have a limited amount of worth and that each time one has premarital sex it is lessened.  That the person is a half-empty bottle of perfume or a slightly torn Christmas present.

As the author of the ProChoiceGeneration post (hi, I’m Maria), I think you missed the point of my original post.  If you or anyone else decides to wait until marriage for sex and are confident in your decision, I am happy for you.  Anyone being confident in what they want in their lives is pretty great.  But here’s the thing, you just told me that I am a Christmas present and that my boyfriend is some mischievous kid who ‘ruins his surprise’.  In that statement, you turned a loving, egalitarian, and deep relationship into an interaction between a child and an object.  You dehumanized me and others who have had sex and I will not stand for that. 

Reblogging again because Maria’s fucking commentary, man.

(Source: peculiartreasuree, via feistyfeminist)

There’s nothing wrong with sex, people.

strengthissexy:

- Having sex every day.
- Saving sex for your wedding night.
- Never having sex.
- Having sex with different people.
- Having sex with one person.
- Having sex with a person of your same gender.
- Loving sex.
- Hating sex.
- Being loud.
- Being quiet.

The only thing wrong with sex?

When it’s not consensual.

Because that’s not sex. That’s rape.

(via sanityscraps)

"You want to show solidarity with women? Acknowledge their right to be sexual beings without being sexual objects. That’s a start."

—

Unknown.  (via rosenplantzandguildenfern

)

(Source: slut-shaming, via feistyfeminist)

Sex Positive Resolutions

sexpositive:

1. I will indulge in fantasies. Discuss your fantasies with a partner, and you could find out about something that they think is super hot. If it’s something you can easily introduce, such as dirty talk, sexy outfits or roleplay, consider indulging yourself or them spontaneously. If it takes some more work, discuss the steps and set a goal to indulge these fantasies.

2. I will try something new. Whether it’s purchasing a new sex toy, or trying a new masturbation technique, introducing something new into your routine will enhance your sexual menu. Especially when it comes to masturbation, you do not want to rely on the same actions every time because you may find it is exceptionally difficult to reach orgasm any other way.

3. I will become more sexually confident. In partnered sex, your partner can tell if you feel confident or insecure, which can be incorporated into the mood. You should aim to feel sexy and have fun. Simple steps to make yourself feel more confident is to know what feels good for you, and to ask for it, as well as to take control and give a little pleasure unexpectedly. This is definitely a harder resolution, but absolutely worth any effort.

4. I will stop feeling guilty about my preferences. Sometimes you do not want to have sex, or sometimes you know that you just won’t be able to reach orgasm. Sometimes you need to try something new, or sometimes you just want to do a familiar technique. Don’t feel guilty about changing up the action, or asking for what you want. This will help you feel more confident and make sure all the sex you have is the sex you want to have.

5. I will banish negative thoughts and energies. If thoughts ever trickle in that you’re taking too long to reach orgasm, or that what you want is inconvenient, banish these negative thoughts. You deserve the sexual pleasure that you are enjoying, and you shouldn’t turn that energy into something negative. These negative thoughts are not helping your sexual confidence or health, so decide to stop those thoughts if they come up.

(Source: sexpositive, via tahlalaliaaa)

ondarkerdays: Indeed.

ondarkerdays:

Indeed.

(Source: lawsofmodernman, via feistyfeminist)

"Everything and anything can be sex positive. Sex positivity is about a state of mind, not what you do in bed—a fundamental acceptance of what other people do, even if it isn’t for you, without an extra scoop of judgment on top."

— Mr. Sexsmith’s Other Girlfriend: Sex Positivity is a Path of Courage « Sex positivity « Society (via sexisnottheenemy)

(via sexisnottheenemy)

"The argument that women who enjoy BDSM are “taught” they should be submissive in bed is insulting to me as a feminist: I’m not a little girl who needs other people to tell me what’s best for me. I choose to trust the men I “play” with. I know what kind of pornography and erotica turns me on. I know what kind of touch turns me on. I know what kind of words and tone of voice turn me on. In fact, there’s sort of a joke in BDSM that submissives are actually the dominant ones because they have ultimate control (like with a safe word). As far as spanking play goes, I’ve always been the one telling men to do this to me, to do it harder, to do it softer, and when to stop."

—

BDSM And Feminism: “Stop Telling Me What I’m Supposed To Like, Damn It.” (via sexisnottheenemy)

About women but easily extended to general sex positivity. Trust people to own their sexuality.

(via fuckyeahmenfolk)

(via fuckyeahmenfolk)

hiohmegan:

I was asked what porn sites are sex positive and friendly to women. Women like all types of porn, all individuals do, so to ensure that I give options that are great for everyone, here is a list of porn companies I recommend. There are some tips for what type of porn you’ll be viewing, which will make it easier to shop for the right visual material based on your tastes. This is just a quick list, I’m sure that there is a lot more out there.

Comstock Films
Features one couple, interviews them documentary style. Usually sweet, loving and lots shots of how this particular couple gets it on. There aren’t a lot of films produced by Comstock Films, but they feature a wide range of “types” of people and relationships.

Candida Royalle Films (Femme Productions)
Perhaps the softest of the porn I’ll recommend, great for those who are nervous viewing porn or individuals who want more of a story line. No close up shots, no rough sex play.

Sweetheart Video
More mainstream, all girl on girl action
They create videos that discuss people’s fantasies, which I think is great. It tackles many people’s secret thoughts.

Sweetsinner Video’s
More mainstream, cisgender/hetero focused films
Made by the same people who make Sweetheart Video, so again, they create videos that discuss many folks taboo fantasies (sleeping with daughter’s boyfriend, etc, etc)

Tristan Taormino-
Makes feminist pornography, lots of titles. I think her Chemistry series are amazing, lots of different folks having sex the way they want to over a 48 hour (I think) period. All types of sex styles, all types of people, reality tv show style.

I should also point out that Tristian makes a ton of How to video’s that teach people how to play and then integrate a play scene of what was described in the educational portion. A few of the video’s she has produced would include:M
Expert guide to anal sex
expert guide to the g spot
expert guide to threesomes
expert guide to female orgasms
expert guide to rough sex

Nina Hartley (actress)
I love Nina Hartley, and while she performs in thousands of videos, she also has a Nina’s How to Guide to Everything. You want to learn how to have sex while pregnant? She’s got it, Want to explore the sexual power of your feet? She’s got a how to. How to have sex with a younger man if you are an older woman? Check. How to peg your man? She’s got the strap on for you.

Nina covers so much, her films and edusexual, half education, half down right fucking. Check her stuff out..

Heart Core FIlms
Made by Good Vibrations company. THey showcase up and coming independent pornographers. April Florres, Dylan Ryan, Madison Young are again, part of their all star team. A nice diverse cast, featuring all types of bodies and behaviors, so there is something for everyone. Lots of artistic flair in these films, especially with the film Dangerous Curves.

Dyke/Queer Focused Porn

Pink and White Films
Famous for creating the Crash pad series…
Amazing folks to work with, they have allowed me to select random individuals for a free trial subscription to their online videos.

Reel Queer Productions-
created by the folks from Good Vibrations. Gotta love Dylan Ryan, Jizz Lee and Madison Young, Courtney Trouble and Billy Castro. All star casts…great story lines, hot sex between people who want to frolic.

Hot Movies for Her.com
Covers everything, everything, everything under the sun. Takes all the films you want to see but makes them available online, you pay for clips of scenes instead of necessarily buying the whole video.

Hope this is helpful and thanks Tufts for asking this question!